When art meets psychology
- Giovanna Pandolfelli
- 11 ott
- Tempo di lettura: 2 min
*Love is about imagining.*
🦋 Love begins as an act of imagination — a vision of what we could become together. It feels like butterflies, like choosing each other no matter what. Yet, as Rainer Maria Rilke wrote in an epistolary exchange:
“For one human being to love another:
that is perhaps the most difficult
of all our tasks…
[…] the work for which all other work
is but preparation.”
Real love is not a steady feeling, but a courageous daily choice.
👫👭👬 A solid romantic relationship is not about gender, roles, or conventions — it’s about human beings facing each other in truth.
Virginia Woolf, one of my favorite writers ever, wrote:
“For Love[...] has two faces;
one white, the other black;
two bodies; one smooth, the other hairy”
(Orlando, 1928)
metaphorically describing the complexity of love, with its lights and shadows. Every couple must navigate change and transformation through rediscovering each other.
🧱 Relationships are built brick by brick. Family is where we feel at home. We also know that love is the courage to choose what feels right, although it is not a constant feeling, but rather a day-to-day construction.
⛵️ A couple is like a small crew on the sea. It's not easy for partners to act like a crew, keeping their eyes focused on the horizon and steadily sailing towards the ultimate and common objectives. Partnership is navigation, not arrival.
🏡 Relationship is about sharing laughter, hopes, past and future, burdens and achievements, silence and grief. A relationship needs to cherish the home feeling day after day. It's about rediscovering oneself and each other day after day.
💔 When something breaks, when a fracture occurs, when the feeling of dropping everything overwhelms one of the partners, it's time to start the delicate work of soothing and rebuilding.
🏆This needs to dig into the roots of our internalised relationships' dynamics. It can be painful, but also very rewarding for personal growth.
Individual healing doesn't necessarily mean rebuilding a relationship. Sometimes it means learning to stay, some other times learning to leave. These are both forms of development.
